Patience is Virtue By Saiful Dzulkifly

Have you ever been in a situation where you need something but could not get it and it makes you feel frustrated and uncomfortable? or lets just put it in one word impatience. I'm sure all of us do. Not a good thing.

What is patience?
Patience is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without becoming annoyed or upset; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast. Patience is one of the best and most valuable virtues of life. Patiently persevering, striving and going forward, despite the difficulty, is the pinnacle of behavior during challenging times.

All of you may have been wondering why topic on patience. Well, to be honest in my experience I find it very iritating when people are impatient. I'm a patient person but once in a while I do get impatient. It just happened. Nobody is perfect. Then again if you practice being patient, naturally or automatically you'll get use to it. In fact as I mention in article above, its them most improtant virtue in a human being.

I've seen people cut queue just to be the first to settle their things or just to be the first person in the train etc. I've seen people settling their paper work in hurry without checking their work and end up their paper work not up to standard or end not doing a good job. I've seen people being impatient while waiting for food/drinks and many more. Lets look at ways people can improve themselves especially in the art of being patient.

People tend to lose patience when multi-tasking or on a tight schedule. You should reconsider your to-do list before you attempt to change your natural reaction to any situation. Try spreading out your tasks so that you're doing only one thing at a time. Delegate responsibilities to others if you can; this in itself may be a test of your patience, but you have to learn to share the load.

Impatience creeps in insidiously, and if there is feeling of anxious, worried or unhappy you may not even realize that the underlying cause of these feelings is impatience. It helps to be aware of it. Sit down and make a list of all the things which cause you anxiety, tension, or frustration.

Developing patience requires a change in attitude about life but you can immediately make progress by learning to relax whenever you feel impatient.

Being aware of your impatience gives you a chance to learn from it and perhaps uncover a relationship or circumstance that is simply not healthy or constructive and that you have the power to change.

If there isn't anything that you can do to resolve whatever has triggered your impatience, just let it go. Easier said than done but it's possible, and it's the only healthy thing to do. Initially, you will probably find it difficult to let go if the matter is important to you but you should be able to alleviate impatience that's caused by issues of less consequence.

People who are impatient are people who insist on getting things done now and don't like to waste time. However, some things just can't be rushed. Almost anything really good in life takes time and dedication, and if you're impatient, you're more likely to give up on relationships, goals, and other things that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait, but most good things that do come don't come right away.

Expect the unexpected. You have plans but suddenly things don't always work out as planned. Accept the twist and turns in life gracefully. Keep your expectations realistic. This applies not only to circumstances, but also the behavior of those around you. If you find yourself blowing up over your child or your spouse accidentally spilling a drink, you're not in touch with the fact that people aren't perfect. Even if the occasion is not an isolated incident but is instead caused by their repeated neglect and carelessness, losing your patience isn't going to make it any better.

Give yourself a break. Its twofold. First, take a few minutes to do absolutely nothing. Just sit quietly and think. Don't watch television; don't even read. Do nothing. It may be hard at first, and you may even feel pretty impatient after a minute or two, but by taking some time out you can essentially slow your world down. Second, stop holding yourself and the world around you to unreachable standards. Expecting the world to run smoothly is like beating your head against the wall. Give yourself a break.

Remember what matters. Not focusing on what matters most in this life fuels impatience. Move the world toward peace by being kind, generous in forgiveness of others, being grateful for what is, and taking full advantage of what matters most. When other less important things fuel our impatience, taking time to remember any one of these items reduces our tendency to want something different right now.

Well, I hope the article above make sense to all of you and I hope it helpful. Before I go below is a quote by James Clavell's Shogun:

"Karma is the beginning of knowledge. Next is patience. Patience is very important. The strong are the patient ones. Patience means holding back your inclination to the seven emotions: Hate, adoration, joy, anxiety, anger, grief, fear. If you don't give way to the seven, you're patient, then you'll soon understand all manner of things and be in harmony with Eternity."

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time line..and it will happen by 2020

PROFILE 2020

NAME : HAJI MOHD SAFARIZAN MOHD SAFIAN

AGE : 36

OCCUPATION : CHAIRMAN OF SAFA CORPORATION



ACHIEVEMENTS

1) One of the most successful businessman in Malaysia by 30

2) Owner of Pusat Tuisyen SAFA & SAFA Lepak Corner.

3) Tuition center and restaurant branches in every state in Malaysia by 35

4) An experienced trainer with a wide range of experience in the educational line. (Worldwide)

5) Bibliography book entitled 'from failing to success'


INITIATOR

-pusat kebajikan anak-anak yatim

-training center for extraordinary kids

-free education for all center

-biasiswa pendidikan SAFA



"failure is a blessing in disguise"





TIME LINE

1) initiated SAFA Tuition Center 2011

2) initiated SAFA Lepak Corner 2013

3) initiate

a. pusat kebajikan anak-anak yatim 2013

4) savings (RM 1 000 000) 2014

5) send parents around the world, buy house and car for them 2015

a. free education for all 2016

6) around the world 2017

7) branches of SAFA Corporation business around Malaysia 2019

8) savings (RM 5 000 000) 2019

9) initiate

a. training center for extraordinary kids 2019

b. biasiswa pendidikan SAFA 2019


10) bibliography book ‘from failure to success’ 2020

11) appearance in Reader’s Digest 2020

by 2020, im gonna make a change to the world!!!

5.31 pm 2/4/84

its strange how you cherish life when you hv got nothing to think about...nothing to focus..nothing bothering your mind...coz i dont care n i can say that ive no worries no more...n im going to live life to the fullest without any constrains frm anyone, anywhere....

life is so much more than worrying about endless problems.n life is too short 4 that :)

safa da great

beautiful words

people are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges

anonamous
8 march 2010

wise words from wise people

“ Never be ashamed to admit you were wrong. You''re only saying that you''re wiser today than you were yesterday. ”

— Dave Gilpin

makes me think...

The Star: 3 february 2010

strange but true. it is kinda funny when you think about it...but guess its time for us to reflect on ourselves. sure, we are humans and we do mistakes but as english teachers, its gonna be a disaster if we do it in class/even outside. so better be prepared in terms of subject matter n leave it to God to decide our faith...

im sorry...

im sorry i hurt you

for such a long, long time,

im sorry i left you

though i luv u so much,

im sorry 4 da times people put da blame on you

n i did nothing to ease your pain,

im sorry 4 forcing u to make ur decision

a difficult one for me as well,

im sorry 4 keeping u in da dark

n forcing you to jump into conclusions,

im sorry 4 not being there when u needed me

leaving you to face everything,anything alone,

im sorry 4 being such a coward,

n running away all da time,

im sorry 4 making u feel da way u do

i never intended to break your heart,

im sorry i let you down all da time

coz u never let me down even once,

im sorry coz i cant let you go

n making it hard for you not to let me go,

im sorry i cant be who you want me to be

coz im never going to change who i am,

im sorry i hurt you real,real bad...

n even now that i know what is happening,

n i know what im suppose to do,

or maybe i dont know what to do,

or maybe what im suppose to do

i will regret later on in life,

i still cant do it,

until this minute,this moment,

i still cant do it...

but i will do it 4 u,

n i will make it easy 4 u,

n i will try my best for u,

coz i luv u,

more than words can say,

more than actions may convey,

more than u will ever know,

believe me

i really luv u with all my heart dear princess...

so goodbye DEAR,

n welcome FRIEND,

-rizan-

11 April 04

31 Jan 10

women vs men

been trying to write but cant get a topic...my head is so mixd up..it spinning round and round...maybe due to my incompetency to arrange ideas in my head...or maybe due to the fact that im not emotionally and psychologically stable...will be cracking my head, hoping to come out with something more beneficial to discuss about...

the only thing i can share is regarding the differences between men and women...i was just browsing thru, looking into any related stuff to my AE when i found this interesting piece of essay regarding the matter above..its written by Michael G. Conner. it tells us about how women and men approach problems (how they solve it), how both genders process information differently in their heads, how our memories function and a few more points that sutggest that women are from venus and men are from mars(hahahahahaha). basically, the paper gives an overview of the differences of both genders and learning how to accept each differences without seeing it as something negative.heres the link:

http://www.crisiscounseling.com/Relationships/DifferencesMenWomen.htm

hope u guys will njoi reading it as much as i had :)

regards

Broken people (The Star:Sunday January 10, 2010 )

SAFARIZAN; i found this article to be very interesting n soul searching. guess it does hv something to do with me..something that has been bothering me for years, something which i could never share with other people in fear that they would treat me indifferently...but i guess it happens to all of us...physical injuries may go away after sometime but emotional scars will always be there for life...do enjoy reading this guys!!

Sunday January 10, 2010

Broken people

STRAY THOUGHTS
By A. ASOHAN

Perhaps pain is not all it’s cracked up to be, but then, neither is positive thinking.

THERE was a lot of buzz around Steven Soderbergh’s Full Frontal when it came out in 2002, although the movie seems to have disappeared from public awareness since.

It was one of those “day in the life” vignette movies with a full ensemble, this one being of a group of people whose connection to each other was that they were to attend a mutual friend’s birthday party that evening. I remember being impressed by the acting, but wondering what the whole point was.

Then at the end, a single scene stood out and punched me right in the solar plexus, figuratively speaking.

In it, the character Carl (David Hyde Pierce) speaks of his wife Lee (Catherine Keener), a disjointed woman who is suffering from some inner turmoil, which, if I remember correctly, came about after she discovered he had been unfaithful. They had patched up their marriage, but things had never been the same since.

“Have you ever seen a dog get hit by a car, but walk away? There’s this impact, and you know something terrible has happened to that dog, but it walks away and it doesn’t seem to even realise the implications ... ’ cause it just goes on. But you know that something terrible has happened inside this dog.”

Many years before I saw this movie, while on the road, a stray ran across the highway and despite some heroic braking and manoeuvres by my friend who was driving, we felt a bump and heard a yelp.

My friend immediately drove to the shoulder, but all we saw was the dog scrambling away, seemingly unhurt, into the wilderness, beyond our help. But from the impact, we both knew something was broken inside. That poor animal may have shrugged it off, but it was there, biding its time.

And Full Frontal made me wonder how many of us go through life as seemingly normal, fully functional members of society, but with a broken piece inside of us. Most of the time, we may be completely unaware of this flaw. There’s no piece rattling about inside, just a dead silence.

We shrug off life’s trials and tribulations pretending they have made us stronger, while in effect there may actually be a flaw in the keystone. One day, that arch is going to come tumbling down.

That child abuse victim who does the same to his children; the United States postal worker or college student who finally flips out with a fully loaded automatic rifle; the rape victim who can never seem to form a stable relationship; the guy at the public service counter who starts shouting for no apparent reason; the tortured soul who finally decides to end it.

How much did American poet Sylvia Plath suffer from her English poet husband Ted Hughes’ infidelity before she finally decided to stick her head in the oven? And what caused the woman he was having an affair with, Assia Wevill, to take her own life a few years later, as well as that of their four-year-old daughter?

How many people live their lives with very little awareness of the hurt they’re nursing inside? How many people live their lives with very little understanding of the hurt they’re causing or have caused others?

Or, as Billy Corgan put it in his usual agonised manner in the Smashing Pumpkins song Stumbleine, “And nobody nowhere understands anything; About me and all my dreams ... Lost at sea.”

In one of my first columns for StarMag, in August of 2007 (The good in hurting, bit.ly/W8V2E), I wrote about how the trials we go through define us as a person, and how some of the best art and literature have come from people who have undergone such experiences. I wrote that “We are at our most profound when we’re in pain.”

Blame it on the younger me of only a few years ago. Perhaps I was being unduly optimistic. Perhaps, to garble the Bard’s writing, there is nothing noble about suffering the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune.

So what if Plath produced her best poetry after her already troubled life took a turn for the worse? Was the price worth it, to her or her loved ones? Is great art, in whatever medium, worth such a tragic price?

There are so many broken people out there. How can we ever hope to reach out to all of them, especially when so many are oblivious to the time-bombs ticking on inside of them? Even people who want to help will not be able to reach in that deeply to help the most tortured souls.

If that person is aware enough to seek help, counselling can help, at least with some of them. But even counselling may prove too superficial and inadequate in other cases. All it can do is dress the wounds so that that person can play a functional role in society, and hope the wound will not re-open or fester.

And for those unthinking people who ignore the consequences of their misdeeds, or falsely believe that they would be redeemed by so-called truisms such as “time heals all wounds”, think again. The damage you’ve done to other people may be deeper and darker than you’d like to assume.

A. Asohan, Digital News Editor at The Star, has friends who still suffer “dark episodes” years after being betrayed by someone they trusted.