NLP - ways to communicate with people in a subtle way
1) answer using "yes i understand", "i agree","i feel you"
2) giving a statement and directing them to agree with you
eg: kamu rasa camne?, rumah ni cantik, kn?
3) redefine definition of words
eg: "im smart" will be "im working towards success", so that if you get low marks in your exam, your subconscious will not kick in into believing that you are not clever.
4) people who are always finding faults in other are actually in need of self assurance that they are better. in other words, they lack self esteem and confidence.therefore, they need to condemn others.
Saturday, 10 September 2011
Tuesday, 15 February 2011
cars
i had always envied people with luxurious, branded cars. especially those who are young but are capable of driving a 2010 Honda are Mercedes. Not to say that i'm not thankful with what i have-second hand Malaysia-produced car but it just seems unfair to how some people get so much more than what others have.However, something that happened last year struck my conscience.
I was is JB, coming back from work at around 5.00pm when i witnessd an accident in front of my eyes. 2 guys, riding a motorbike, crashed into a cement divider and spun into the middle of the road. clearly in pain, the 2 guys got up and tried to hurdle their half-broken bike onto the sidewalk. i pulled my car over to check them out. not surprising, both of them were covered with blood and were wincing in pain. when i got closer, i noticed they were foreigners from a neigbouring country. i took the initiative, ask them their names and got them to call their friends. at the same time, another guy on a bike pulled over to see if there was anything he could do. we discussed and i decided to take the 2 of them to the hospital while the other guy would wait for their friends to pick up the motorbike. at the moment of happening, not the slightest of hesitation crossed my mind, even though i knew that my car would be full of blood, i didnt think twice about it. Lucky for them, Hospital Ampuan Rahimah was just around the corner.
My point is not to boast on my 'wonderfulness' or sense of social conscience. What struck me was the fact that a lot of cars passed us without even making an effort to slow down of stop to check on the unfortunate guys. most of the cars were new, luxurious,branded looking cars. looking at the pool of blood in my car, it struck me that these guys didn't want to take a chance to 'dirty' their car. i wont blame them. if it was me, i would have been reluctant to do it in my new Mercedes or Ferrari. of coz, in a logical state of mind, who would want to taint their expensive car with dirt, wut more blood.even if a person is to do so, there would be second thoughts...
after the incident, i self rationalize that every thing has its purpose- in this situation, my old but faithful automobile. quoted from an inspirational article online:
"God would not ask what car you drive-but who you helpd along the way."
I was is JB, coming back from work at around 5.00pm when i witnessd an accident in front of my eyes. 2 guys, riding a motorbike, crashed into a cement divider and spun into the middle of the road. clearly in pain, the 2 guys got up and tried to hurdle their half-broken bike onto the sidewalk. i pulled my car over to check them out. not surprising, both of them were covered with blood and were wincing in pain. when i got closer, i noticed they were foreigners from a neigbouring country. i took the initiative, ask them their names and got them to call their friends. at the same time, another guy on a bike pulled over to see if there was anything he could do. we discussed and i decided to take the 2 of them to the hospital while the other guy would wait for their friends to pick up the motorbike. at the moment of happening, not the slightest of hesitation crossed my mind, even though i knew that my car would be full of blood, i didnt think twice about it. Lucky for them, Hospital Ampuan Rahimah was just around the corner.
My point is not to boast on my 'wonderfulness' or sense of social conscience. What struck me was the fact that a lot of cars passed us without even making an effort to slow down of stop to check on the unfortunate guys. most of the cars were new, luxurious,branded looking cars. looking at the pool of blood in my car, it struck me that these guys didn't want to take a chance to 'dirty' their car. i wont blame them. if it was me, i would have been reluctant to do it in my new Mercedes or Ferrari. of coz, in a logical state of mind, who would want to taint their expensive car with dirt, wut more blood.even if a person is to do so, there would be second thoughts...
after the incident, i self rationalize that every thing has its purpose- in this situation, my old but faithful automobile. quoted from an inspirational article online:
"God would not ask what car you drive-but who you helpd along the way."
Saturday, 19 June 2010
Patience is Virtue By Saiful Dzulkifly
Have you ever been in a situation where you need something but could not get it and it makes you feel frustrated and uncomfortable? or lets just put it in one word impatience. I'm sure all of us do. Not a good thing.
What is patience?
Patience is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without becoming annoyed or upset; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast. Patience is one of the best and most valuable virtues of life. Patiently persevering, striving and going forward, despite the difficulty, is the pinnacle of behavior during challenging times.
All of you may have been wondering why topic on patience. Well, to be honest in my experience I find it very iritating when people are impatient. I'm a patient person but once in a while I do get impatient. It just happened. Nobody is perfect. Then again if you practice being patient, naturally or automatically you'll get use to it. In fact as I mention in article above, its them most improtant virtue in a human being.
I've seen people cut queue just to be the first to settle their things or just to be the first person in the train etc. I've seen people settling their paper work in hurry without checking their work and end up their paper work not up to standard or end not doing a good job. I've seen people being impatient while waiting for food/drinks and many more. Lets look at ways people can improve themselves especially in the art of being patient.
People tend to lose patience when multi-tasking or on a tight schedule. You should reconsider your to-do list before you attempt to change your natural reaction to any situation. Try spreading out your tasks so that you're doing only one thing at a time. Delegate responsibilities to others if you can; this in itself may be a test of your patience, but you have to learn to share the load.
Impatience creeps in insidiously, and if there is feeling of anxious, worried or unhappy you may not even realize that the underlying cause of these feelings is impatience. It helps to be aware of it. Sit down and make a list of all the things which cause you anxiety, tension, or frustration.
Developing patience requires a change in attitude about life but you can immediately make progress by learning to relax whenever you feel impatient.
Being aware of your impatience gives you a chance to learn from it and perhaps uncover a relationship or circumstance that is simply not healthy or constructive and that you have the power to change.
If there isn't anything that you can do to resolve whatever has triggered your impatience, just let it go. Easier said than done but it's possible, and it's the only healthy thing to do. Initially, you will probably find it difficult to let go if the matter is important to you but you should be able to alleviate impatience that's caused by issues of less consequence.
People who are impatient are people who insist on getting things done now and don't like to waste time. However, some things just can't be rushed. Almost anything really good in life takes time and dedication, and if you're impatient, you're more likely to give up on relationships, goals, and other things that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait, but most good things that do come don't come right away.
Expect the unexpected. You have plans but suddenly things don't always work out as planned. Accept the twist and turns in life gracefully. Keep your expectations realistic. This applies not only to circumstances, but also the behavior of those around you. If you find yourself blowing up over your child or your spouse accidentally spilling a drink, you're not in touch with the fact that people aren't perfect. Even if the occasion is not an isolated incident but is instead caused by their repeated neglect and carelessness, losing your patience isn't going to make it any better.
Give yourself a break. Its twofold. First, take a few minutes to do absolutely nothing. Just sit quietly and think. Don't watch television; don't even read. Do nothing. It may be hard at first, and you may even feel pretty impatient after a minute or two, but by taking some time out you can essentially slow your world down. Second, stop holding yourself and the world around you to unreachable standards. Expecting the world to run smoothly is like beating your head against the wall. Give yourself a break.
Remember what matters. Not focusing on what matters most in this life fuels impatience. Move the world toward peace by being kind, generous in forgiveness of others, being grateful for what is, and taking full advantage of what matters most. When other less important things fuel our impatience, taking time to remember any one of these items reduces our tendency to want something different right now.
Well, I hope the article above make sense to all of you and I hope it helpful. Before I go below is a quote by James Clavell's Shogun:
"Karma is the beginning of knowledge. Next is patience. Patience is very important. The strong are the patient ones. Patience means holding back your inclination to the seven emotions: Hate, adoration, joy, anxiety, anger, grief, fear. If you don't give way to the seven, you're patient, then you'll soon understand all manner of things and be in harmony with Eternity."
Discover & learn the secret to succeed in life, love and finances. Visit http://www.saifulzamandzulkifly-blog.com where you'll find more free articles to help you transform yourself and if you are motivated, inspire to be the next up-coming leader and make income from home or in need of help in terms of personal development you can contact via blog mentioned above or email at saifulzaman.dzulkifly@gmail.com
Saiful Dzulkifly is a mentor, personal development coach and internet marketer who inspires & motivates individuals to achieve their true potential in life, love and finances.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Saiful_Dzulkifly
What is patience?
Patience is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without becoming annoyed or upset; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast. Patience is one of the best and most valuable virtues of life. Patiently persevering, striving and going forward, despite the difficulty, is the pinnacle of behavior during challenging times.
All of you may have been wondering why topic on patience. Well, to be honest in my experience I find it very iritating when people are impatient. I'm a patient person but once in a while I do get impatient. It just happened. Nobody is perfect. Then again if you practice being patient, naturally or automatically you'll get use to it. In fact as I mention in article above, its them most improtant virtue in a human being.
I've seen people cut queue just to be the first to settle their things or just to be the first person in the train etc. I've seen people settling their paper work in hurry without checking their work and end up their paper work not up to standard or end not doing a good job. I've seen people being impatient while waiting for food/drinks and many more. Lets look at ways people can improve themselves especially in the art of being patient.
People tend to lose patience when multi-tasking or on a tight schedule. You should reconsider your to-do list before you attempt to change your natural reaction to any situation. Try spreading out your tasks so that you're doing only one thing at a time. Delegate responsibilities to others if you can; this in itself may be a test of your patience, but you have to learn to share the load.
Impatience creeps in insidiously, and if there is feeling of anxious, worried or unhappy you may not even realize that the underlying cause of these feelings is impatience. It helps to be aware of it. Sit down and make a list of all the things which cause you anxiety, tension, or frustration.
Developing patience requires a change in attitude about life but you can immediately make progress by learning to relax whenever you feel impatient.
Being aware of your impatience gives you a chance to learn from it and perhaps uncover a relationship or circumstance that is simply not healthy or constructive and that you have the power to change.
If there isn't anything that you can do to resolve whatever has triggered your impatience, just let it go. Easier said than done but it's possible, and it's the only healthy thing to do. Initially, you will probably find it difficult to let go if the matter is important to you but you should be able to alleviate impatience that's caused by issues of less consequence.
People who are impatient are people who insist on getting things done now and don't like to waste time. However, some things just can't be rushed. Almost anything really good in life takes time and dedication, and if you're impatient, you're more likely to give up on relationships, goals, and other things that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait, but most good things that do come don't come right away.
Expect the unexpected. You have plans but suddenly things don't always work out as planned. Accept the twist and turns in life gracefully. Keep your expectations realistic. This applies not only to circumstances, but also the behavior of those around you. If you find yourself blowing up over your child or your spouse accidentally spilling a drink, you're not in touch with the fact that people aren't perfect. Even if the occasion is not an isolated incident but is instead caused by their repeated neglect and carelessness, losing your patience isn't going to make it any better.
Give yourself a break. Its twofold. First, take a few minutes to do absolutely nothing. Just sit quietly and think. Don't watch television; don't even read. Do nothing. It may be hard at first, and you may even feel pretty impatient after a minute or two, but by taking some time out you can essentially slow your world down. Second, stop holding yourself and the world around you to unreachable standards. Expecting the world to run smoothly is like beating your head against the wall. Give yourself a break.
Remember what matters. Not focusing on what matters most in this life fuels impatience. Move the world toward peace by being kind, generous in forgiveness of others, being grateful for what is, and taking full advantage of what matters most. When other less important things fuel our impatience, taking time to remember any one of these items reduces our tendency to want something different right now.
Well, I hope the article above make sense to all of you and I hope it helpful. Before I go below is a quote by James Clavell's Shogun:
"Karma is the beginning of knowledge. Next is patience. Patience is very important. The strong are the patient ones. Patience means holding back your inclination to the seven emotions: Hate, adoration, joy, anxiety, anger, grief, fear. If you don't give way to the seven, you're patient, then you'll soon understand all manner of things and be in harmony with Eternity."
Discover & learn the secret to succeed in life, love and finances. Visit http://www.saifulzamandzulkifly-blog.com where you'll find more free articles to help you transform yourself and if you are motivated, inspire to be the next up-coming leader and make income from home or in need of help in terms of personal development you can contact via blog mentioned above or email at saifulzaman.dzulkifly@gmail.com
Saiful Dzulkifly is a mentor, personal development coach and internet marketer who inspires & motivates individuals to achieve their true potential in life, love and finances.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Saiful_Dzulkifly
Monday, 26 April 2010
time line..and it will happen by 2020
PROFILE 2020
NAME : HAJI MOHD SAFARIZAN MOHD SAFIAN
AGE : 36
OCCUPATION : CHAIRMAN OF SAFA CORPORATION
ACHIEVEMENTS
1) One of the most successful businessman in Malaysia by 30
2) Owner of Pusat Tuisyen SAFA & SAFA Lepak Corner.
3) Tuition center and restaurant branches in every state in Malaysia by 35
4) An experienced trainer with a wide range of experience in the educational line. (Worldwide)
5) Bibliography book entitled 'from failing to success'
INITIATOR
-pusat kebajikan anak-anak yatim
-training center for extraordinary kids
-free education for all center
-biasiswa pendidikan SAFA
"failure is a blessing in disguise"
TIME LINE
1) initiated SAFA Tuition Center 2011
2) initiated SAFA Lepak Corner 2013
3) initiate
a. pusat kebajikan anak-anak yatim 2013
4) savings (RM 1 000 000) 2014
5) send parents around the world, buy house and car for them 2015
a. free education for all 2016
6) around the world 2017
7) branches of SAFA Corporation business around Malaysia 2019
8) savings (RM 5 000 000) 2019
9) initiate
a. training center for extraordinary kids 2019
b. biasiswa pendidikan SAFA 2019
10) bibliography book ‘from failure to success’ 2020
11) appearance in Reader’s Digest 2020
NAME : HAJI MOHD SAFARIZAN MOHD SAFIAN
AGE : 36
OCCUPATION : CHAIRMAN OF SAFA CORPORATION
ACHIEVEMENTS
1) One of the most successful businessman in Malaysia by 30
2) Owner of Pusat Tuisyen SAFA & SAFA Lepak Corner.
3) Tuition center and restaurant branches in every state in Malaysia by 35
4) An experienced trainer with a wide range of experience in the educational line. (Worldwide)
5) Bibliography book entitled 'from failing to success'
INITIATOR
-pusat kebajikan anak-anak yatim
-training center for extraordinary kids
-free education for all center
-biasiswa pendidikan SAFA
"failure is a blessing in disguise"
TIME LINE
1) initiated SAFA Tuition Center 2011
2) initiated SAFA Lepak Corner 2013
3) initiate
a. pusat kebajikan anak-anak yatim 2013
4) savings (RM 1 000 000) 2014
5) send parents around the world, buy house and car for them 2015
a. free education for all 2016
6) around the world 2017
7) branches of SAFA Corporation business around Malaysia 2019
8) savings (RM 5 000 000) 2019
9) initiate
a. training center for extraordinary kids 2019
b. biasiswa pendidikan SAFA 2019
10) bibliography book ‘from failure to success’ 2020
11) appearance in Reader’s Digest 2020
Friday, 2 April 2010
5.31 pm 2/4/84
its strange how you cherish life when you hv got nothing to think about...nothing to focus..nothing bothering your mind...coz i dont care n i can say that ive no worries no more...n im going to live life to the fullest without any constrains frm anyone, anywhere....
life is so much more than worrying about endless problems.n life is too short 4 that :)
safa da great
life is so much more than worrying about endless problems.n life is too short 4 that :)
safa da great
Monday, 8 March 2010
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